If your relationship has stalled or worse, flatlined where you feel empty and bored, or all you do is argue and fight – don’t despair. Relationships naturally evolve over time and we are never taught how to manage ourselves when we change or our spouse changes. It takes energy, patience, skill and dedication to keep a marriage vital and inspiring.  This is nearly impossible when life throws curves, the birth of children, death, job loss, physical illness or other family issues can intrude on our marriage. 

I use a combination of approaches including Internal Family System (IFS), the Gottman model of couples counseling and I also focus on personality types.  This allows you to become more educated as to what you and your partner are truly seeking in relationships and then develop communication skills to meet each other’s needs more fully.

Whatever the circumstances of your relationship, I will work with both you and your partner to help you identify the best way of progressing. Even if your partner is not ready to enter counseling, I can still help you take the first steps in bringing about change.  This is important, change starts with you regardless of your partner’s participation.  You can directly affect the quality of the relationship now with or without them and that is great news.

Ultimately, as you leave behind defeating and destructive patterns, couples therapy can allow you to create the conditions for a stronger, more open, and mutually fulfilling partnership to flourish.  You will learn to identify and address unresolved tensions in your relationship. You will learn better communication skills and new ways to approach problems, leaving behind defeating and destructive patterns.

In the past, couples have sought counseling to:

• Improve communication and understanding
• Restore trust after infidelity
• Help resolve intercultural, interracial, and inter-religious difficulties
• Recover a loss of attraction and/or intimacy
• Help adjust to the shift in dynamics caused by the birth of children
• Navigate the challenging decisions around, and process of, separation and divorce
• Begin a new partnership or marriage on a firm footing

Whether your aim is to restore love, passion and trust, or to formulate a new footing for your relationship, I can help you in achieving a future that is positive, balanced, and healthy.  Contact me to get your relationship back on track!  Don’t wait until it’s too late!  Time is not on your side.  I learned this the hard way.